South Africa is known for its polygamous marriages with our president married to four wives, the practice is still prevalent today. South African Muslims such as Cape Malays, Cape Coloureds and Indian South Africans also allow  polygamy. However it does not seem to end there, urban homosexual millennial men have also started practicing polygamy.

I caught up with ‘Marc’ a 25 year old young man who says that he was recently approached by a love interest to be part of a polygamous relationship but in his case, he has not been introduced to the first boyfriend, if we can call it that. Marc says “when I was asked to be in a polygamous relationship I was in disbelief that this was being asked of me, however, I was given the opportunity to think about it and after much thought I accepted.”

It has not been easy for him as he really seems to like the guy who asked him to be a part of the trio. Polygamous relationships are not easy to identify on social media or when seeing a trio hanging out at a popular bar or club. However, what is interesting to see is the connection between the trio, no one has wondering eyes, because they seem to be content with the situation they are in. From an outsiders point of view seeing the two without the third, and unconsciously assuming that someone is being cheated on is quite a misconception.

A survey done by TNS a few years ago, found that females are more opposed to it than men. So why are homosexual men engaging in it, you would ask, if there are heterosexual men are not for it. Is it a case of having your cake and eating it too? Or has the dating pool become so compact that we are settling into relationships where time must be divided or have we become selfless to the point where we’re willing to share something that is meant to be sacred. Whatever the justification, is this the road we’re on as a generation or perhaps is it just another ‘’trend’’ that’s passing though? Love is Love, right?

Click here for a feature on three men who got married.